> It's fine to have preferences but to expect your company and team to let you always do things your personal preferred way is pretty unrealistic.

Another way to say this is "if you work a remote coding job, it is expected that you hop on a video/voice call pretty much whenever one of your teammates/managers/co-workers wants you to whenever they have a question they don't feel like typing out" because it's basically just a socially accepted norm. The majority of people prefer you stop what you're doing, get into a socially uncomfortable/awkward situation, and you're "the victim" until the person on the other end will let you hang up.

Repeat that 4+ times a day on average 5 times a week and that $120k/yr comfortable soft 8am-5am "IT" job starts looking less attractive/more soul sucking/5-10 years in you're dreaming of buying a van and moving into a cabin in the woods.

Then... move to the woods?

I don’t think that’s another way to state that… The original statement is a bidirectional statement. Meaning you should also be able to decline calls and the other party will have to respect your preferences some of the time. It’s just basic balance and social graces, really.