You’re hopeless with this mindset. I wish you the best in one day finding peace & perhaps the realization, that in the grand scheme of things, your opinion on this matter is ‘wrong’ in our modern society.

I don’t have the slightest clue what you look like, but if you have an able body, I promise you I’d trade however you look for the functionality of your body. Seriously, I miss being able to participate in real life so much. I’d gladly become whatever you think a “2” is for a working body.

Sometimes things don’t work out for you. I make a good tech income, literally own my home, I exercise and I’m probably fitter than most people, I have plenty of friends. At best I’ve been on 2-3 dates with the same woman. None have really shown interest in me. I’m not under any illusion, it’s me.

I’m lucky I live in a country where sex work is legal. Otherwise I might still feel suicidal.

I don’t think internet advice or trying to show people how they aren’t that bad of is helpful or even appropriate for HN. Just say “I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out for you”.

Hmm, are there countries with legal sex work and good tech incomes? “Good” meaning SV good.

Anyway, does your target market want a guy with a house and job? That’s what first gen immigrants want. (Or what second-gen’s parents want, which matters too.) The local middle class want that to be assumed and you actually appear to spend all your time on volunteering and hobbies.

Physical attractiveness is the most under your control thing there is. Women don’t wake up looking like that and you don’t have to either.

It’s not that important though. The real part is keeping the relationship going, not finding it.

Also, have you seen Pete Davidson? He looks like a drowned rat.

How do you increase your height by 15 inches?

Move to Guatemala where the average female height is 4'11. This is the average, so there are shorter women than that.

Just don’t date 5’4”-ish American white women and you’re good. The height complex is mostly a them thing.

In particular, taller women don’t care.

So it is not under my control?

There's some genetic component, but you can control how clean you are, how fat you are, and what you are wearing.

Do that and practice talking to women, and then you're attractive.

Some of the guys I know who get the most women are not particularly handsome at all, they just do a lot of talking to women and thus are good at leading the conversion to where it needs to go.

I'm sure you are aware of a subculture of men who go out in town to meet women. All they're doing is practicing a lot.