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Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by PaulHoule on Saturday December 10, 2022 @12:40PM (#33934643)
If you add up all the things that somebody could be resentful about I am sure that all of them would correlate to low sexual desire, and the more of them that are present the less the desire.

The flip side is that 20% or so of women were sexually abused as children and that creates a situation where no matter how many current time causes of resentment you remove and no matter how many positive things you try to add it is like trying to get a fish to fly. There is a reason why they don’t let victims of sexual abuse serve on the juries of people like Danny Masterson because one person’s indulgence can permanently deprive the victim and their partners of what is an important part of life for most people.

Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by Der_Einzige on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:36PM (#33935333)
Except victims of this kind of trauma usually become hyper sexual...
Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by PaulHoule on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:42PM (#33935399)
Some do. Some do the opposite. Some people are hyper sexual in some social contexts and asexual in others. Either way it has a persistent harmful affect on the victim and people around them.

Others just figure that a year in prison is not enough to pay for damage that lasts a lifetime, particularly when it affects the people around you in a cryptic way, and look for opportunities to hurt other people.

Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by lelanthran on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:52PM (#33935524)
> The flip side is that 20% or so of women were sexually abused as children

What country/city/area is this? I find this exceptionally hard to believe.

Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by PaulHoule on Saturday December 10, 2022 @02:55PM (#33936170)
My number can be found here but you can find other numbers on it too..

https://victimsofcrime.org/child-sexual-abuse-statistics/

There are some therapists who see couples who say that when sex is not working for a couple and the simple things don’t work that the cause is almost always past abuse. It is an N=1 experiment but I can say talking about that with my partner led to some revelations 2 days later that were dimly remembered but later confirmed by others who were involved.

Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by SamoyedFurFluff on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:32PM (#33935284)
Not having victims of a specific crime serve as juries of a trial for that crime isn’t specific to sexual assault.
Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by PaulHoule on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:40PM (#33935380)
In the case of masterson it is a sexually specific crime. A sexual abuse victim would not be disqualified from serving on a jury for, say, bank robbery or embezzling.

The main issue is that if happens to you it makes a wound that doesn’t ever heal and you are very inclined to want to pass your trauma forward to somebody…. If you knew that person crossing the road in front of you was a molestor you might think about not applying the brake…

Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by SamoyedFurFluff on Saturday December 10, 2022 @02:09PM (#33935712)
You’re assuming sexual assault victims not being the jury of sexual assault trials is somehow special to sexual assault victims because of how sexual assault is. In reality any victim of a crime is not eligible for jury to trial the exact same crime- victims of embezzlement are likely to be thrown out of embezzlement trials, gun violence victims from gun violent trials, etc. sexual assault isn’t somehow special in that case and has no correlation with the other claims you’re making.
Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by Teever on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:03PM (#33934917)
The shit people sign their name to on the internet...
Re:Gender Inequities in Household Labor Predict Lower Sexual... by PaulHoule on Saturday December 10, 2022 @01:09PM (#33934982)
I’ve found going from ‘this is something that is true generically’ to ‘this is something I’ve lived’ turn -7 downvotes to +200 upvotes but I’d rather not air dirty laundry.

I can say it makes people like

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lauren_Book

go Batman on people’s asses and lead to situations like

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julia_Tuttle_Causeway_sex_offe...