I get it. You’re super hip.
But words are indeed meaningful and you don’t get to choose how I use them or what they mean to me. I have a wife, not a “partner”. She is a woman, not a “birthing person”.
Make up whatever new words of definitions you wish. Hell, create a new language if you want. But stop trying to make everyone else conform to your vocabulary that primarily exists to virtue signal and for attention seeking.
I don't believe I've ever said you couldn't choose the words you prefer to use for yourself. The most I'd say is, "here is the reasoning for why this might make some people feel excluded" and let you make your own choices.
You've responded quite aggressively to me, attacking positions I don't hold while also insulting me. (Ironically calling me super hip, virtue signaling, and attention seeking.)
I'm non-binary, it has nothing to do with any of the reasons you mentioned, it's just the language I use with my community, and explaining to others calmly and rationally why it helps some people feel included.
I think maybe you and others have the wrong idea. Life isn’t like elementary school sports. You won’t always be included, there are no participation trophies, other people don’t care about you or your feelings.
Fulfillment in life is about what you can bring to the world, not the other way around.
Additionally, the only reason this is a talking point is the absence of any real struggles or oppression, so bored people invented some contrived, imagined grievances.
Watch how quickly this whole conversation stops once the western world faces some existential threat from a country like China.
It's not just "bored people", and I suggest you read up on their struggles.
I'd encourage others to use that language and explain my reasoning (which is what I did above.) If they don't, I'm bummed out but I move on. I may think more negatively of that person in the future.
That's all. In real life and in internet life.