That you've actually articulated the idea that one cannot be concerned with one thing, and spend your time doing another, suggests that you have zero respect for the fortitude and perserverance of your diverse colleagues.
You simply have no idea how strong we've all had to be. In part, because of patronizing attitudes like you've expressed here.
Well I’m not sure what I did wrong but I seem to have caused a wave of negative emotions. I guess I have a lot to learn still.
What you did wrong is consistently characterize your intellectual opponents as being dominated by "negative emotions," a thing you are still doing. This is how you lose arguments. This is how you lost this one.
Can’t say I’m getting particularly positive vibes from you but this is a limited way of communicating of course. I wish you all the best.
Diversity should be normal, I agree and indeed perhaps some efforts should always be spend on such matters. But when is it enough?