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Re:Ask HN: Why don't I see gold at the end of the remote wor... by Taylor_OD on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @11:07AM (#33263314)
Yup. So much this. I'm friendly with folks at work. I'm not friends with people at work.

Maybe some people truly are but I suspect most people who think their coworkers are friends are pretending like that friendship wont go away rapidly when one of them no longer works for the company.

So much of OPs post is trying to get from coworkers what many get from friends.

Re:Ask HN: Why don't I see gold at the end of the remote wor... by boredtofears on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @11:19AM (#33263498)
Some of the best friends and mentors I've made in life have been through my career. I still talk to friends from jobs that I left over a decade ago.

That's bizarre to me to have an explicit attitude of not befriending colleagues. It's never been something I've specifically sought out, it's always organically come to be -- but it's not something I would actively work against. I don't understand the benefit to that mindset.

Re:Ask HN: Why don't I see gold at the end of the remote wor... by orangecat on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @01:09PM (#33265053)
Yeah I don't get it at all. It seems like some people are operating with an axiom that work is fundamentally and unavoidably awful, and therefore you should avoid doing anything that might seem to make it more pleasant, because then you might trick yourself into spending more time than you otherwise would, which by assumption is a mistake.