It’s not that I disagree, but all those things need doing just as much if your kids are in bed at 9:30 at the earliest.

Have you tried outsourcing all the chores? Get a nanny, a gardener, a personal assistant, hire handymen, don’t cook at home.

Sorry for being analytical about it, I am personally interested in having kids—and so far it seems to me that you’re overburdening yourself with too much stuff that you don’t have to do at all.

I can outsource and I do, I also readily buy any tool or appliance that saves me time. But not everyone is as well of that they can afford to do that.

Also, I have found that there is significant benefit in doing chores yourself. At least it gives me a sense of accomplishment and a chance to do something with my hands instead of thinking a lot and then wiggle some fingers to type or draw PowerPoint.

My wife is a morning person. I am not. She does all the morning stuff, and gets the kiddo to school before I even wake up. I put our kid to bed, do the dishes, and game/hobby stuff until midnight to 2am. My wife enjoys her quiet mornings before I wake up and the kiddo is in school, I enjoy my quiet evenings when everyone is in bed.

I can’t imagine how couples that are both morning or night people can function. It must be so different.