Heck, it's not even true of some of those specifically called out in the article above. For example, I've written programs that use Rails as a library - or rather, suite of libraries - of functions and classes to be called, but anyone suggesting that Rails is somehow "not a framework", on the flimsy grounds that it did not dictate the flow of control, is gonna get some funny looks at morning standup.
But the greater problem is that narrow, mechanical definitions omit purpose, and talking about software without purpose being front-and-center becomes rapidly theological. If you're wondering what I mean by that, look up the wikipedia article for "Software framework", scroll through its desultory talk page, and recognize the inevitability of the boilerplate it got stuck with: "This section is written like a personal reflection, personal essay, or argumentative essay that states a Wikipedia editor's personal feelings".
Some parts (ActiveSupport, the part that simplifies e.g. date calculations) are clearly libraries. They can be used outside of Rails as well, because they totally ignore the shape of your other code.
Other parts (ActionPack, the component that calls your code depending on the incoming web request) are working like a framework. Your code must adhere to their requirements, otherwise it won‘t work.
When you extend this pure/impure idea all the way throughout the computing eco-system, it quickly becomes apparent that something went wrong a long time ago, and every-time, instead of untangling the mess that is pure and impure into their own buckets, we find a way to run a framework in a framework.
What is an Operating System? What is a container? What is k8s? What is a Programming Language? What is a browser? What is a website? What is next?
Also, it is certainly possible to have a mix of a library and a framework where parts use IOC and others don't. Maybe that's try for Rails (never used it) and that's where your confusion comes from?
One of the most useful definitions I found was from Luciano Ramalho, the author of Fluent Python (and so many other cool things). According to his insight, a framework is something that calls your code. A library is something your code calls. Frameworks are more rigid things that force structure on your functionality. If the structure it imposes is good, then your code will be good.
Their scope is also tailored to the languages they support. As you pointed out, different languages will have different needs.
But there's a large gray zone between these two, and eventually the distinction is also often quite pointless in the real world.
> A better definition might be that a framework imposes an entire 'application model' on you, and trying to step outside that predefined model is at your own risk
This is the kind of definition were 50% will call something a framework and the other half will call it a library then. Not sure if that is really helpful.
Callback hell however, is not something I'd associate with a framwork
It doesn’t. If you abstract things enough there is your framework.
The only things I’ve seen that were truly without a framework were raw php files that did everything contained within that single file. And even these had headers that combined some common functionality.
That's not what people commonly understand as a "framework". Nor is it a helpful definition because then where does "abstracting things" and "framework" start and end?
No, the main difference between frameworks and what you describe is the IOC. In the framework world, the framework calls you and then something happens behind the scenes until the framework decides to call some code that you provided via the frameworks API.
With libraries it's the other way around: you call the library and then you do something with the result and then use it to call the library again and so on until you have the desired outcome.
The difference is, for example, that you can call the library and when it returns something to you, you can inspect it and choose to ignore it. You can do so in an arbitrary way. In the framework case, if the framework does not provide any way for you to interact with it in the way you want, then you are screwed.