Mine is: "I will be expecting your credit card and bank information on my table in the morning"

Or "describe all your past sexual encounters". Granted, some might be ok with it, but most won't feel comfortable.

In any case, your phone provider knows - co-occurring presence of the same two phones in the same grid cell at the same time (esp. night).

By implication, what your provider knows, governments also know - they have a direct line.

That is not a record of a sexual encounter.

"close enough for government work"

Dude basically sign a document cosenting to consenting to any document.

Sell your soul.

I think the reason most people are wary of sharing banking information is that they are worried you would exploit it or because of social norms not to talk about money, not that they have something to hide.

What better reason to hide something than because you think people will exploit that knowledge to harm you? You don't even need to think the party you're giving the information to will abuse it. Can you trust them to not pass it on or have it stolen from them? We have many many examples of why you should not.

>"I will be expecting your credit card and bank information on my table in the morning" I've shared this (or similar info) with landlords and realtors and platforms that I don't trust. That's life.

The point is that just because you have something to hide doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. You might end up sharing that information in certain situations, but carefully. The framing those who promulgate that phrasing want to push is that not wanting to share information with the government makes you suspicious, because your only possible reason could be wrongdoing. This notion is hostile to liberty and security.

That's a arbitrary limiting of "something to hide."

A: "I have nothing to hide."

B: "Give me your bank details."

A: "Not like that! That's not something to hide because I'm hiding them to protect my savings."

B: "The reason other people hide things is also to protect themselves, their property, and their loved ones."

"Hiding them to protect my savings" is a result of our broken identity system, I'd say that's tangential to privacy.

As Mitchell and Webb pointed out, "identity theft" is actually bank theft that's blamed on the account holder. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CS9ptA3Ya9E

I completely agree with you about "identity theft" but I also keep the keys to my house private, although anybody who would burglarize me if I didn't would clearly be in the wrong and legally liable for my things.

Notwithstanding any legal or ethical judgement, being burglarized would cause me significant inconvenience and at the very least some sentimental losses, even if I were ultimately compensated years later with interest. Therefore, I keep my keys private to protect myself.

What people mean is that they've done nothing wrong, not that there's nothing they'd rather keep secret. "Not like that!" means they're annoyed you're focused on their words instead of their meaning. They're about to write you off and walk away with their beliefs even stronger.

The point is to break the incorrect notion that "having something to hide" means "wanting to hide wrongdoing."

There are also a ton of bewildered Boomers out there who believe they have done nothing wrong and are completely bewildered their children have gone no contact. I’d say if your kids won’t talk to you’ve seriously fucked up, and at least for some of them it’s over conversations they could have taken to their grave but instead their “truth” was more important than meeting their grandkids.

I told my father something about myself years ago and he tried to make the case that I hadn’t brought it up because I was ashamed.

I wasn’t ashamed. But if you share certain things about yourself, being gay being one of the most obvious examples, some people want to define you by it, or talk about it to the exclusion of all other things. I’d much rather talk about trees, for that matter tax law.

One of my mentees had a bit of a persecution complex about several things, orientation one of them. When late in our relationship I finally mentioned that my kid had come out, she was shocked I hadn’t brought it up before (which in retrospect I think she may have been recalculating her opinions of me on the fly, like the Key & Peele skit, “Oh I see, I’m just an asshole.”)

Without a pause I answered that it’s because it’s not the most interesting thing about them, which just made the eyebrows go up even higher. But I think it finally sunk in.

> you're focused on their words instead of their meaning.

If I were focused on that meaning, I'd call talking about whether they're doing right or wrong things completely unresponsive. We're talking about privacy and protection, not their personal assessments of the merit of their private lives.

Instead, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt and remind them that the people who are dangerous to them may not share their standards or ethics.

‘Something to hide’ in English often has a negative connotation meaning deliberately trying to deceive or something bad they did and don’t want you to know about.

Better would be to not use that phrase as most people have something they wish to remain private or secret, without it being anything sinister. Like their password for example !

I like "then why are you wearing clothes?"

Mine is "Do you close the door when you go to the bathroom?"