> though I must emphasize not to do it to meet women as the primary purpose
just seconding this. the gym is already a pretty tough environment and people coming for this purpose make it outright hostile. it's not a bar.
do climb though, it's a great way to get strong and do something fun!
Re:The toll of dating app burnout
by stickfigure on Thursday September 01, 2022 @12:37PM
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Long married now, but for many years, a trip to the climbing gym was my standard first date (that is - someone I met elsewhere, I would take them climbing). It worked really well:
* It's a natural two-person activity with a bidirectional trust exercise.
* Heights provide a little amygdala stimulation.
* It's hard and physical and you feel like you deserve a beer afterwards.
* If your date is not already a climber, you get to play the role of the teacher/master.
* It weeds out the extremely uptight / neurotic.
i was a climber for 8 years... i'd say that, in general, women in the gym i was going to several times a week definitely don't want to be hit on at the gym. why? because they go a lot and if you get into some awkward situation there, you don't want to keep running into the same person over and over again...
that said, it does make for a good first date and i definitely got a bunch of random people into climbing that way... =)
i started climbing and bouldering recently and while I haven't met anyone romantically (I have no interest in pushing this, I want to do it for the hobby first, and for meeting people second), the group I go with usually has more women than men and in the gyms it seems to be about a 50/50 split so I can easily see how you could meet someone there in the way you imagine.
though I must emphasize not to do it to meet women as the primary purpose, I feel like that's kind of creepy vs. an event that is explicitly for that purpose (like single bars or whatever).