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Re:Ask HN: How do I stop being used? by paxys on Thursday June 09, 2022 @01:20PM (#31684048)
> Then they're going to pull the, "I thought we were friends" or "You won't help a friend?" card

A good way to handle this is to ask for some reciprocal payment that isn't cash. "Sure I can help you with WiFi, but could you review my tax filing for this year?" "Could you come paint my living room for me in exchange?" "Can I borrow your truck for a week?"

They will start valuing these "small favors" a lot more when they are on the losing side.

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Re:Ask HN: How do I stop being used? by flying_colours on Thursday June 09, 2022 @02:34PM (#31685059)
Oh yes good point on the reciprocity points!!!
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Re:Ask HN: How do I stop being used? by foxes on Saturday June 11, 2022 @01:06AM (#31702090)
If they come back at you with "I thought we were friends" they are not friends. Not every exchange has to be a transaction. As long as it evens out over the long term you are not being used.
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