> Directing tropey slurs at people is mostly not ok on HN and it's been moderated like that for ages.

I've provided numerous examples of how it isn't restricted to a specific group and is instead aimed at behaviors.

It is quite similar to the word milquetoast. A mild pejorative aimed at a behavior.

Please stop reaching and trying to conflate it with racial or ethnic slurs.

The 'examples' obviously don't fit HN at all and beside you, nobody has mentioned racial or ethnic slurs nor made any argument the word should be treated here in some way that's different from the way it's widely interpreted. That seems more reach-y and redefin-y than simply asking people not to be trope-wielding jerks on HN.