A lot of them won't accept you if you are queer in any form. I'm bisexual, and refuse to act like half of me doesn't exist.

Some of them won't accept you if you do not dress well enough, though I realize some are more lax.

Some consider me a sinner simply for being divorced: Others, because refuse to birth children.

I'm not in that group they care about, in other words.

AA reflects the character of the people and culture who are implementing it... If those people are judgy religious assholes, then I can't expect their AA meetings would be much different. But it would be a mistake to assume that your local sample defines the entire movement.

There are tons of religions out there. You have to find one that works for you. Atheist? Join an atheist group. There are options.

I'm from Indiana: How many atheist groups do you think are in a town of 3,000? or 50,000? You know, in person spaces.

I'm no longer in Indiana, but I no longer share a native tongue with locals and religion isn't a big thing here. I'd just go and get actual medical care here and do hobbies I like. These aren't atheist groups, just non-religious.

Kind of by definition they could be. There is still debate by scholars as to what defines a religion. But something as simple as shared beliefs and world view can meet that definition, especially if it deals with the presence or absence of rituals or objects related to supernatural beliefs.

"you are pressing religions."

Nope. Follow the comments back. I'm not pressing people to get into a religion. I'm merely clarifying why AA includes religion - for the sense of community.