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Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by jcims on Saturday March 12, 2022 @05:27PM (#30655562)
Fortunately your children will almost certainly find new ways to critique and disparage your decisions as a parent and their respect for you also diminish as they grow older and calcify their opinions of what makes a good parent.
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by eloeffler on Saturday March 12, 2022 @06:06PM (#30655892)
You're missing the point here. Ideally the 3rd gen kids will grow up to realize their 2nd gen parents made reasonable decisions even though they disagreed as kids, just as the cliché says (and like so many testimonials out there).

e.g. If gen 1 only used witty condescending remarks to teach their children that they're dumb, then 2nd gen can realize that this severely damages their kids' self-esteem. If gen 2 recobers from that abuse they may choose the path of taking their kids serioisly even with their shortcomings. The 3rd gen might take some kind of offense in that but there is less of a reason to grow in resentment towards gen 2 while they raise gen 3.

Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by sosborn on Saturday March 12, 2022 @06:30PM (#30656106)
Take any family line. What generation are they at? Shouldn’t all bad parenting be weeded out by now?
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by virgildotcodes on Saturday March 12, 2022 @08:01PM (#30656797)
People are not purely products of their parents behavior. You have not only genetic variation, but a lifetime of all the incredible complexity of life experience that happens outside the house and with all other humans. I could imagine these factors moving each person backwards and forwards along any scale of “progress” we chose to measure people by, generation by generation, at times overwhelming the positive or negative influence of their parents.
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by imtringued on Monday March 14, 2022 @04:59AM (#30670005)
Maybe generation 3? One of my grandmothers worked on a farm in a developing country.

Times change. Subsistence farming doesn't cut it anymore. The lessons learned from that generation are something we have to grow out of.

Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by Shared404 on Saturday March 12, 2022 @07:35PM (#30656637)
This assumes that the kids themselves actually learn and grow at some point.

Some don't. It may be that the parents overcorrect and never teach their kids right/wrong, or it could just be the kid being a problem, or any number of other issues.

Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by netizen-936824 on Saturday March 12, 2022 @06:45PM (#30656230)
Well think of how bad things used to be, the progress is very incremental. Our short term perspectives as humans isn't good for seeing these patterns.
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by lazide on Saturday March 12, 2022 @08:26PM (#30656942)
Also, there is no ‘right’, rather a series of attempts that fit on an ever shifting curve. There is no ‘ideal’ parenting except by sheer luck.
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by jcims on Saturday March 12, 2022 @06:22PM (#30656034)
Doesn’t this assume a static target of ideal parenting?
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by nradov on Saturday March 12, 2022 @08:14PM (#30656861)
Why would you think that parenting skills would improve in successive generations? Historically that doesn't seem to be the case.
Re:Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate by Consultant32452 on Saturday March 12, 2022 @06:06PM (#30655893)
And they learned a valuable lesson that it's okay/normal to terminate relationships with you.