Even so: the only real change can come from within Russia.
dude is devastated
Long ago I had a similar situation with the parents of my partner who were in a completely different reality, 'their main tactic was head down and ignore it all, be grateful that you are alive and shut up'.
The Kremlins true motivation is to create a Greater Russia. Russia will not allow for an independent Ukraine. This is consistent with Putins speech before the invasion on how Ukraine isn't really a country.
Ukrainians understand this and that's why they are begging to join NATO. They are not trying to unnecessarily provoke Russia, but they already understand that Russia is an existential threat to them now.
Some argued before that Ukraine should become a neutral buffer state, but that is simply not an option with the current Russian ambitions.
//Edit Appendix, historical background: I'm alluding to Nazi Germany that tried to "re"establish a mixture of the German Empire (which existed in one form or another for nearly a millennium from 962 to some time in the early 19th century) and the Roman Empire; hence the name "3rd Empire" and the aspiration for it to last another millennium. After invading Poland the popular opinion was that Hitler was "saturated" and would leave the rest of Europe alone (I tried to fact check this, but I can't easily find a reference; though I'm pretty sure that this was discussed in our history books - so take this with a grain of salt). I believe history shows how fatally wrong that assessment was. But maybe as a German I am just a tiny little bit sensitive regarding dictators assaulting their neighbors and claiming nationalistic BS.
> Now this problem is gone - Ukraine has returned to Russia. This does not mean that its statehood will be liquidated, but it will be reorganized, re-established and returned to its natural state of part of the Russian world.
> This is a conflict between Russia and the West, this is a response to the geopolitical expansion of the Atlanticists, this is Russia's return of its historical space and its place in the world
The whole pamphlet makes me want to vomit. But still ~nice~ (no, totally wrong connotation)... revealing(?) to get some more insight into the... whatever one should call that kind of thinking.