A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people

Re:A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds ... by alexb_ on Monday February 14, 2022 @03:44AM (#30329735)

It's completely and utterly superficial. You just cannot stay in touch with hundreds of people - it's not possible, unless you are doing so superficially and treating "friends" as "things I need to check up on so I don't lose a node to a network of people that might be helpful to me".

Completely maxed out, humans can only have about 150 friends[1]. Trying to have more is just not being genuine. And think about the other side of this - what if you learned someone you thought actually cared about you, or that you actually considered a friend, was using a fucking automated system to "stay in touch". It's sociopath behavior.

[1]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number

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Re:A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds ... by throwit1q2e3r on Monday February 14, 2022 @07:49AM (#30331380)

I would be happy that they valued me enough to add to their automation, and I would probably set up some automation to remind me to talk to them, and we would be automation buddies. Sounds a lot more fun than the likely alternative, that we never talk to each other again.

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Re:A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds ... by kzisme on Monday February 14, 2022 @04:08AM (#30329891)

Thanks for that link! I was trying to remember what the number/theory was called.

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Re:A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds ... by mlatu on Monday February 14, 2022 @08:36AM (#30331814)

> It's sociopath behavior.

You say that out of the privilege of neurotypicallity.

"Sociopaths" (as you seem to call people who use this or similar approaches for keeping in touch) also need to live their lives.

Alternatively, is it your opinion they should be all locked up and put away with?

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