Ask HN: At a peak of my dev career, I hate my life

Re:Ask HN: At a peak of my dev career, I hate my life by twayt on Sunday January 30, 2022 @12:29AM (#30134350)

That’s not wrong, but OP sounds desperate for connection. Lowering standards to be part of a group that resolves the loneliness is dangerous and can do a number on ones self-esteem.

Sure, the premature judgement is bad but hanging around people who share different values and on different trajectories is not the solution.

The only solution here is to take massive action to expose one to different groups of people and if nothing works, move somewhere else.

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Re:Ask HN: At a peak of my dev career, I hate my life by Klonoar on Sunday January 30, 2022 @04:12AM (#30135239)

I'm not saying they should lower their standards - I'm simply saying they should manage it better. You don't allow everyone in your life to have the same priority, and this extends to how you manage friendships.

It's 100% okay to have friends that border more on acquaintances, who might lead you to other more interesting people.

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