I myself wrote a webserver, albeit a specialised one and for curiosity, I also created a few pages which were in no way accessible unless you knew its web address, there were no links to these pages from the home page or anything, I didn't even tell anyone about these webpages and yet in my logs, I could see those webpages were being spidered!
My robots.txt was setup as an instruction to proceed no further, so I think there is other feedback mechanisms guiding the spiders but I havent worked out if its from the web browser, or actual infrastructure like switches or routers.
Admittedly this was before HTTPS became common.
> [...] Googlebot and other respectable web crawlers obey the instructions in a robots.txt file [...]
If you're saying this is a lie, please provide sources
They don't.