As someone who can tolerate just about anything - take it back to the start: we were thrust into this life without our consent. Life is inherently an inconvenience from this perspective. So what if a roommate doesn’t do dishes, if people cheat, break rules, etc? I didn’t even ask to be here in the first place. I am quiet, happy, unbothered, when I adopt this view. But not unambitious, lazy, etc. Quite the contrary. It just seems like complaining about rule-breakers is worse than rule-breaking itself.