Submitted 1yr ago, 177 upvotes when the current front page is ~1000. I wouldn't call it "the point of the sub."

I just think it's super reductive to look at that sub and decide that the problem is that women are golddiggers. That place speaks to a lot of the fear, frustration, and disappointment that, anecdotally, plague many women's dating lives.

> That place speaks to a lot of the fear, frustration, and disappointment that, anecdotally, plague many women's dating lives.

Of course dating is difficult for women. But it's also difficult for men, and that doesn't excuse misogyny.

The obvious conclusion is that there are large groups of both men and women who have very unhealthy and sexist ideas about the opposite gender. How many women on that sub have actually talked to real men about these ideas? "If you wouldn't date a drug addict, don't date a man who watches porn"? Seriously?

Communities like FemaleDatingStrategy are just as bad as incel or MGTOW communities — just a place for sad people to outpour their bitterness and sexism into an echo chamber. Except places like FDS pretend to be feminist, so they get a pass. But they really, really shouldn't, and I hope one day society will see that.

> Communities like FemaleDatingStrategy are just as bad as incel or MGTOW communities — essentially just a place for sad people to outpour bitterness and sexism in an echo chamber.

Yep. There is a reason for why users of that subreddit are commonly referred to as "femcels" by people outside of it.

Lol, that's not "just" what your first comment said. You said: "Seems like a sub that's really into respecting oneself outside of the context of a boyfriend, and women unpacking and de-normalizing the toxic behaviors of previous partners." Your original comment is still up there, directly contradicting what you've now pivoted to. You scanned the sub and couldn't find something that it took several other people less than five minutes to track down.

> That place speaks to a lot of the fear, frustration, and disappointment that, anecdotally, plague many women's dating lives.

Funny. That's exactly what the red pill did for a lot of men.

TRP and FDS both use past lived trauma to justify toxic ideologies. The frustrating difference is FDS is feted in the mainstream media, while TRP is considered terrorist adjacent.

I don't disagree that both are toxic in their ways (see also: internet communities), but how many women do we see committing terrorism while spouting FDS-derived ideology?

For what it's worth, all AFAIK the terrorists you're referring to came from the incel-sphere as opposed to TRP.

But more substantively, basically all terrorists are men. This is true of terrorists from every group: white nationalists, black nationalists, Muslims, Christians, Trump supporters, Bernie supporters. If there ever is a terrorist spouting FDS ideology, he will be a man. The particular toxicity of the ideology has nothing to do with it.

All true, I'm just saying that the reason TRP (which is for sure adjacent to the incel sphere; I'm sure the Venn diagram between the subreddits for the two is closer to one circle than two) is considered "terrorist-adjacent" is because they're adjacent to terrorists.

Aren't most suicide bombers female?