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Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @05:02PM (#29246881)
Turn off the TV and anti-social media, take a walk in the sunshine, and voila.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Broken_Hippo on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @01:45AM (#29249873)
I was alive before the internet. I've never really watched much tv.

And I don't have the time to tell you how much that sucked. You are stuck in whatever place you happened to be, especially as a child or not having much money. If you can't find folks to accept you, you are just cast aside.

I*m not sure how walking in sunshine was supposed to help me when folks assumed I was lesbian and freaking avoided me (they were half right, but I didn't deserve this). Or followed me around laughing, saying "She's soooo stupid!". And so on. Every. Single. Day. I finally made friends, and people would ask them why they were friends with me.

But yeah, I'll go off and walk in sunshine and everything will be OK.

On the other hand, I got older and found folks on the internet that accepted me. I could finally talk to people while being myself. I am in a stable relationship thanks to this (and moved countries: While some folks are anti-immigrant, more accept that I'm a bit weird and/or will explain social norms if I mess up).

You can keep your sunshine.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @02:30PM (#29257755)
Still need it for Vitamin D.

My post above was general advice for dealing with media negativity. It seems to have attracted folks with serious issues who may/not need professional help. If y'all thought a walk was supposed to magically fix that level of adversity, well… unfortunately you're mistaken.

That said, perspective is more powerful than your post allows.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by Kye on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @04:53PM (#29259334)
Blaming others for reasonable reads on careless phrasing has never in the history of conversation made the situation better.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Kye on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:16PM (#29247974)
Now I'm tired and still in the exact same situation. Everyone I know is still overworked, underpaid, and has no time or energy to socialize. All social activities still require driving on gas that's $3+/gallon on top of everything costing money.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:35PM (#29248101)
Sounds like you need to cut back, way back. ;-)

https://bemorewithless.com/the-story-of-the-mexican-fisherma...

Walkable neighborhoods exist as well.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by Kye on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:44PM (#29248167)
Sounds like you think you know far more about other people than you do.

>> "Walkable neighborhoods exist as well."

Even all the highly-paid (but still not enough) people I know are struggling to compete for houses in them. I don't have a chance.

Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @07:59PM (#29248267)
Excuses are like assholes, everyone's got one. No need for a house. I don't have one, but I do have walkability and sufficient solitude, aka freedom from the boob-tube and associated neuroses. They were choices I made, prioritized over material things.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Kye on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @08:25PM (#29248400)
Good for you. Either share how you did it and stop gloating and judging, or go away.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @09:12PM (#29248658)
You're the visitor here, cowboy. Got a job, lived beneath my means. Biggest mistake was to not finish a degree first.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by mixmastamyk on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @02:37PM (#29257845)

  s/cowboy/tough guy/
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Aloha on Tuesday November 16, 2021 @09:23PM (#29248706)
This is how I felt before I moved to a place with a lower cost of living, yes, I still need to drive everywhere, but at least I'm not miserable all the time. The pace of life slowed down once I got off of the coast.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Kye on Wednesday November 17, 2021 @04:55PM (#29259359)
Moving costs money that's hard to get when you already can't afford life, and further isolates you until you get integrated into the new community. It's a risky proposition. A lot of people who find themselves homeless got there by moving without being prepared for the other end.
Re:The benefits of not belonging by Aloha on Thursday November 18, 2021 @10:48AM (#29266752)
Yeah, I prepared for moving for a bunch of years before I moved. A bunch of years, as miserable as I was in Seattle, moving away from my safety net was scary. I'm much happier in Dallas, thats as much weather and how different people are here.