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Re:Child suicides in Japan hit record high by emadabdulrahim on Thursday October 14, 2021 @08:24AM (#28863323)
This reminded me of experiences I wish I could forget for when I was bullied from 2nd grade to 8th. What made it worse was by puberty, I realized I was gay, which made me feel the bullying was justified because of how reprehensible my sexual orientation was. While I don't believe this anymore, I do feel those experiences have left a deep scare that won't simply go away.
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Re:Child suicides in Japan hit record high by hn_throwaway_99 on Thursday October 14, 2021 @08:53AM (#28863583)
Similar experiences here. If you haven't, really can't emphasize the value of a good therapist, and gay men's group therapy if you can find it.

That said, I think the deep scar analogy is apt. While therapy has helped me immensely in dealing with some of my issues, those issues will always be there, so it's hard not to feel an immense amount of regret and "if only" thoughts wishing I had never been bullied in the first place.

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Re:Child suicides in Japan hit record high by 2pEXgD0fZ5cF on Thursday October 14, 2021 @08:40AM (#28863456)
I'm sorry this happened to you. I actually find it terrible how bullying in general is seen as "part of growing up" and other nonsense or sometimes even heavily played down with lies or fabrications like "the bully himself is actually suffering/has a bad life thats why he does it" (which is in no way generally true).

Or even worse: blame is put on the victim.

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Re:Child suicides in Japan hit record high by rabuse on Thursday October 14, 2021 @10:52AM (#28865071)
I was a bully during my teenage years. Honestly, did it for the attention from peers, and especially the girls. It's sad to say, but girls definitely favor that mentality at that age range.
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