Re:Ask HN: When was the last time you were involved in a phy...
by mmaunder on Wednesday September 29, 2021 @10:52AM
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Conflict is not what you see on TV. Both physical and legal conflict come with tremendous long term cost and risks.
Physical conflict is incredibly dangerous. You can accidentally kill someone or injure them for life in a street fight, thereby ruining your own life. Even if you “win” there’s something awful that stays with you and drags you down for a long time. Being in a job that requires conflict- police officer, soldier, etc - has what I think is a hidden cost that we don’t truly appreciate.
Legal conflict is similar and can take years. If comes with a huge long term psychological cost that sucks away all your emotional energy - the energy that fuels your creativity.
Often in conflict there is no clear winner, making many outcomes unsatisfying and unresolved.
Unless you’ve dealt with conflict in its various forms, you truly have no idea of the costs and risks. It has been glamorized by film and television, and most people are quick to threaten to sue someone or to “kick their ass”, but they have no clue what they’re getting into.
Work to avoid conflict, even if it comes with some costs, until you positively absolutely have no choice but to engage.
Re:Ask HN: When was the last time you were involved in a phy...
by jimmyvalmer on Wednesday September 29, 2021 @11:06AM
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What's with the sermonizing? OP gave no indication he was contemplating a
donnybrook. Possibly the greatest clip related to "When was the last time you got
your ** kicked?" https://youtu.be/AfMbN_MzCpw
Re:Ask HN: When was the last time you were involved in a phy...
by PaulHoule on Wednesday September 29, 2021 @10:23PM
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Hand to hand conflict is rarely ‘incredibly’ dangerous but if a knife or gun is involved the stakes are much higher. I know someone who felt uncomfortable because a stranger was threatening another person at a restaurant, spoke up, and got stabbed and hospitalized.
Re:Ask HN: When was the last time you were involved in a phy...
by corobo on Wednesday September 29, 2021 @10:54AM
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About a decade ago my alcoholic Dad was being an alcoholic. It escalated. He threatened me with a weapon. I headbutted his two front teeth out. I was aiming for the nose but he dodged back a little, I do regret the teeth.
Very effective way to end a fight to be honest. It's a bit of a shocking thing to see blood wise and puts the person immediately on their arse so you can get out of there. Nobody got hurt any further.
He died a couple of years ago after his liver switched off, never did try getting off the booze. As he would say; such is life
Physical conflict is incredibly dangerous. You can accidentally kill someone or injure them for life in a street fight, thereby ruining your own life. Even if you “win” there’s something awful that stays with you and drags you down for a long time. Being in a job that requires conflict- police officer, soldier, etc - has what I think is a hidden cost that we don’t truly appreciate.
Legal conflict is similar and can take years. If comes with a huge long term psychological cost that sucks away all your emotional energy - the energy that fuels your creativity.
Often in conflict there is no clear winner, making many outcomes unsatisfying and unresolved.
Unless you’ve dealt with conflict in its various forms, you truly have no idea of the costs and risks. It has been glamorized by film and television, and most people are quick to threaten to sue someone or to “kick their ass”, but they have no clue what they’re getting into.
Work to avoid conflict, even if it comes with some costs, until you positively absolutely have no choice but to engage.
Very effective way to end a fight to be honest. It's a bit of a shocking thing to see blood wise and puts the person immediately on their arse so you can get out of there. Nobody got hurt any further.
He died a couple of years ago after his liver switched off, never did try getting off the booze. As he would say; such is life
See my comment here to give some context. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25610810