I will never not talk about my depression

Re:I will never not talk about my depression by gfody on Thursday June 17, 2021 @03:12PM (#27543327)

depression eventually gets you to the point that you can't work no matter how critical that employment is to your well being you just stop showing up or quit in a mental breakdown. sick leave is a nice alternative and i agree it must be nice to have that option but when you say "feeling depressed" vs being depressed i think you have the wrong idea about it.

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Re:I will never not talk about my depression by t0mbstone on Thursday June 17, 2021 @08:09PM (#27545886)

What do you call it when your wife who you deeply love develops schizophrenia and bi-polar tendencies less than a year after you get married and then you sacrifice your 20's to take care of her only for her to end up killing herself, and then you feel sad and try to block the sad memories that make you feel depressed by working all the time and putting yourself to sleep every night for the next ten years by drinking alcohol?

I consider myself to be a high-functioning, depressed alcoholic. Most people who know me have no clue I'm depressed.

Keep in mind, I'm not suicidal. I just often find myself feeling sad and like life is ultimately pointless, and I try to find ways to self-medicate so I don't notice the sadness as much. I also feel severely burnt out, even though I enjoy my job which pays well (which is a very strange paradox that I can't explain even to myself).

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Re:I will never not talk about my depression by gfody on Friday June 18, 2021 @01:45AM (#27547701)

depression is about what you can and can't do regardless the shit you've been through - I won't put a label on your life experience, but if you can function well and enjoy it you're probably not depressed

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Re:I will never not talk about my depression by t0mbstone on Friday June 18, 2021 @12:12PM (#27551851)

> if you can function well and enjoy it you're probably not depressed

“Depression affects all personalities and can look very different in various people,” says Jodi Aman, psychotherapist and author of “You 1, Anxiety 0: Win Your Life Back from Fear and Panic.”

“A highly functioning person can be suffering invisibly too,” she says.

https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/this-is-what-hi...

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Re:I will never not talk about my depression by gfody on Friday June 18, 2021 @02:59PM (#27553669)

I stick to my point and tbh you should talk to a doctor or get a diagnosis from someone deeply familiar with the dsm and not self diagnose and self treat. fwiw I can appreciate you're carrying emotional pain and suffering and it's common we throw around the word "depression" casually to describe this stuff but I don't think you're clinically depressed until it starts overriding your executive function .. it's all a scale of course and you could be heading in a direction so either way talking to a doctor would be good for you

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Re:I will never not talk about my depression by t0mbstone on Friday June 18, 2021 @06:31PM (#27555714)

Thank you for the advice! I appreciate it

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