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Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by gsk22 on Friday May 28, 2021 @05:59PM (#27321011)
You're misunderstanding what the phrase "how are you" means in the US. It is not a literal question, but a set phrase with implicit social rules for "correct" responses.

This doesn't mean the person asking is faking kindness - but also understand they're not actually asking for a rundown of how your life is going. Negative responses to the question are ok, just not deeply personal answers.

Tom Scott has an excellent video that addresses this very issue.

https://youtu.be/eGnH0KAXhCw

Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by vbezhenar on Friday May 28, 2021 @06:24PM (#27321237)
It's the same in Russian actually. You're saying "how are you" ("как дела") after "hello" ("привет"), but you're not really expecting any meaningful answer other than "I'm OK" ("нормально") or "I'm fine" ("отлично").

But it might be one way to start a conversation when you want to tell something you don't like. Like "How are you? I'll live. What happened? ...". But it's more of closed friends conversation when you can feel OK sharing your burdens with other person. I guess, similar thing could happen in US?

Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by Clewza313 on Friday May 28, 2021 @08:32PM (#27322082)
From now on, I need to start responding to "How are you?" with "Normal".
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by sray on Friday May 28, 2021 @09:41PM (#27322429)
My favorite response to “How are you?” comes from a Russian former coworker: “Average. Worse than yesterday, better than tomorrow”.
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by andai on Saturday May 29, 2021 @01:39AM (#27323290)
I heard this phrase described as "Russian Optimism".
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by Slow_Hand on Saturday May 29, 2021 @02:37PM (#27327292)
American here:

I did it last night with a cashier and she laughed and was, I think, amused by the novel response. It seemed to brighten her up a small amount. She then continued to make conversation by saying “Well let’s see if we can’t get you to better than normal.” That was slightly offputting and I wish she didn’t feel the need to take it there. I’m perfectly content with feeling “normal”.

I suppose the way I think of it is like dynamic range of expression. Normal is baseline and perfectly suitable. It’s where I like being. Great or bad are for special cases where I feel extraordinary.

Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by ph0rque on Friday May 28, 2021 @08:54PM (#27322205)
My go to answer is, "can't complain". Vague enough to leave it alone if the question is trivial, but also open-ended enough to expound upon if the other person is genuinely interested in my well-being.
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by CRConrad on Thursday June 03, 2021 @08:37AM (#27380330)
Reminds me of the old joke:

-- What, "can't complain"? Really? You're in a Siberian prison camp, starving and freezing your toes and fingers off, and you "can't complain"?

-- Yes, when you're in a Siberian prison camp, you can't complain...

Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by scruple on Saturday May 29, 2021 @01:38AM (#27323288)
Me, too. It's a very Midwestern response... [0]

[0]: https://youtu.be/vm-MrkoJPC8?t=35

Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by gsk22 on Saturday May 29, 2021 @01:55AM (#27323341)
I also like "hangin' in there" -- especially since Covid started.
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by zarq on Friday May 28, 2021 @07:25PM (#27321677)
Fun experiment, try asking "how are you" a second time. A lot of Americans will respond instinctively, without wondering why you asked again.
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by beebeepka on Saturday May 29, 2021 @09:12AM (#27325007)
Funny. Is the second round more honest or just as shallow?
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by lostcolony on Friday May 28, 2021 @06:15PM (#27321163)
I always enjoyed the "how is it going", and then not even waiting for a response before moving forward with the conversation. I'm a native born American, have traveled outside of the country only a handful of times, and yet I still find it jarring to be asked that.
Re:Why Russians do not smile (2002) by firebaze on Wednesday June 02, 2021 @05:23PM (#27374188)
What you write is true from an US point of view, and that's the point of my comment. In Europe you wouldn't ask anyone how she/he feels when you don't want to accept and reply to the response, even if it is deviating from the expected (happy) response.