(srsly, good reading, thx!)
Steve Martin followed a similar path, philosophy major to comedy with a flair for the absurdity of life -- followed to the (il-)logical conclusion...
This really resonates with me strongly.
Choice is usually portrayed as empowerment or a something you can do from position of empowerment. But choosing is resigning to your fate and loosing everything you have not chosen. The truly empowered are the ones that don't need to choose much.
And choice is not something you need to be empowered to do. There are really very few and very rare occasions where you truly have just one option. Usually when you think you have no choice, you really do, but you choose the current option that is not what you want because you still prefer it to all other you can imagine.
Awareness of that fact helped me in toughest times.
You can't really eat cake without first having a cake to eat. If you eat it, you don't have cake any more; if you don't, you still have cake.
Therefore, if you want to eat your cake and have it, you want to do something but don't want the consequence of it.
It’s about trying to exchange butter for money but thinking you could somehow end up with both, either intentionally by rigging a zero sum game to someone’s detriment, or mistakenly through a leap of flawed logic when one does not realise it’s zero sum, and thinks it can be outgamed with enough swapping around.
I'm partial to "eat your cake and keep it too", FWIW; "have" is ambigous.
It teaches you not to focus on regret and only care about risk/satisfaction ratio, and to keep moving.
This topic also tailor your sense of self too. When you made a few too many bad choices (job, relationship, location) you get a finer sense of what you want.
I read this and thought maybe we as a culture are too hung up on empowerment, power, power-seeking, etc. You say true power is not needing to choose, I say why is it important to seek power at all?
I think I would classify that act as making a different choice, but not everybody sees it that way.
What works better is to identify reversible decisions and just make them, clearing the deck for those that do have serious opportunity costs associated with them.
The two, though contemporaries, could not be more different in my mind, and that is represented in the clarity of the short statement vs short poem. Yet the underlying loss expressed’ is the same.
(I don't intend to get into lit crit: the last line of the poem heads in an additional direction, but that's the difference between three words and a few hundred)
In practice, however, gaining knowledge often increases our awareness of how things might be even faster than it removes possibilities that we formerly considered: "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio..."
But yeah, not a great title
de-cision: cut off (eliminate the alternatives)
sui-cide, homi-cide, regi-cide, etc: cut/stab/slay self, a man, a king, etc.
My barber won't listen to me, but he foolishly keeps a bottle of barbicide around.
Every decision for something is a decision against something. (Netflix Dark)
"Choisir, c'est renoncer" (to choose is to give up).
That said, the title posted here is disingenuous: "decide" is not at all related to death, it's related to "cut" or "remove", it just so happens that that root is coincidentally used with prefixes leading to "remove life". So at best it has deadly siblings, not origins.
In fact, I cannot see that title on the linked page, it seems to have been substituted from "Choices"?