Because the design choices are pretty easily argued to have been made for reasons other than reducing user access, but have the side effect of reducing user access. Both size/weight constraints and case integrity drive you to the same sort of thing.
To be clear, I think it's fine to call out a company for planned obsolescence, and I think it's fine to call them out for emphasizing size, etc. over user serviceability. I just don't think it's useful to pretend they are the same thing.
Artificially inflating cost of parts can trivially be used to enforce planned obsolescence.
It could, but nobody has presented any evidence that Apple is doing this, and their business strategy is openly stated to involve increasing the lifetime of their devices, so that they can deliver services to more users, so this is just innuendo.
Simply compare the cost of official Apple service and corrsponding third-party service.
Here are some reasonable explanations for how third parties cut costs without resort to a conspiracy:
1. Less warranty on repairs.
2. Lower cost substitute parts.
3. Lower quality control,
4. Less training for staff.
5. Lower profit margins, leading to unsustainable businesses.