Re:How Doctors Die (2013)
by throwaway0a5e on Saturday April 03, 2021 @10:37PM
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>you don't get better in your 80s in a meaningful way, since you aren't going to live forever.
A year or three is a long time at that age. Think about the milestones the grandchildren or great grand children of someone in their 80s are going through. They want to be alive to see that.
...but probably not at any cost. I’d ask them rather than assert it.
One more year, stuck into pointless hospital care wouldn't necessarily mean they get to really see (least enjoy) their grandchildren milestones, one thing is for sure: a lot of physical suffering
> So we asked them what their wishes were
I thinked you missed that point.
> They want to be alive to see that.
No, nobody in my family wants to undergo chemo or surgery at an advanced age to see grandkids.
I think it depends on the severity and person. My grandpa got cancer when he was 90. He beat it and lived another 2 years. He lived at home and didn't have to stay at the hospital.
> you don't get better in your 80s in a meaningful way, since you aren't going to live forever.
No one live forever. My father had bowel cancer in his mid-eighties 4 years ago. He had an operation to remove the tumour and had a very unpleasant month or so recuperating but needed no other treatment. He appears happy and could potentially live another 10 years.
My family came to a different result for somebody the same age.
We looked at it from the standpoint of, "With blood cancer in their 80s, is there an endgame that resulted in getting better?"
If you think about it for a minute, you don't get better in your 80s in a meaningful way, since you aren't going to live forever.
So we asked them what their wishes were, and did not continue treatment. Everybody reached an agreement that wasn't all about the emotions of people who weren't ill.