...but probably not at any cost. I’d ask them rather than assert it.
One more year, stuck into pointless hospital care wouldn't necessarily mean they get to really see (least enjoy) their grandchildren milestones, one thing is for sure: a lot of physical suffering
> So we asked them what their wishes were
I thinked you missed that point.
> They want to be alive to see that.
No, nobody in my family wants to undergo chemo or surgery at an advanced age to see grandkids.
A year or three is a long time at that age. Think about the milestones the grandchildren or great grand children of someone in their 80s are going through. They want to be alive to see that.