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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by dominotw on Monday March 01, 2021 @02:23PM (#26307018)
Its game over once you apologize. Never seen anyone recover from an apology. Never apologize to anyone who is unwilling to forgive you.
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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by unethical_ban on Monday March 01, 2021 @04:15PM (#26308504)
This sounds like advice from the GOP playbook. "Can't be shamed if you have none".

A sincere apology implies that one truly feels bad about their behavior in some way. If someone truly feels bad about something that has public visibility, they should apologize for that for their own benefit, regardless if the other party accepts it.

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by dominotw on Monday March 01, 2021 @05:21PM (#26309245)
> they should apologize for that for their own benefit

Whats the benefit though?

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by unethical_ban on Monday March 01, 2021 @06:17PM (#26309850)
Their image in the eyes of decent people who think like them, who also realize they made a mistake.

I'm talking in the abstract, not about this man.

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by dominotw on Monday March 01, 2021 @06:35PM (#26310014)
Apologize publicly where 'decent people' can see and adjust their 'image' of you accordingly. I missed the public apology part, i think it was implied in your statment.
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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by thomasz on Monday March 01, 2021 @06:31PM (#26309974)
A lot of these people, including McNeil, have written submissive apologies.

https://twitter.com/marcatracy/status/1357806202277797889/ph...

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Re:NYTimes Peru N-Word: My side of the story, in four parts by mc32 on Monday March 01, 2021 @02:58PM (#26307575)
It seems analogous to not asking a dog to do a trick you know it can’t perform.
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