My grandma was born in 1936 in the city of Poznan as ethnically german child with a polish passport. Her family owned a shop and house the shop was in. Then, the nazis occupied poland, and the family prospered shortly. But the father, who had been a polish soldier before, had to enlist in the german forces and fell on the eastern front. Then the SU conquered the entire area and my grandmas familty lost every thing they could not carry: the house, the shop, the grandparents house with farm land, etc. More people lost their lives, greatgrandma was most likely raped, etc. Grandma missed a year of shool and ended up 5-10 centimeters shorter than the relatives.

Now, 70 years later, does she hate the polish, or the russians, for what happened? Of course not.