Soft lighting is a result of geometry. You can use very huge source far away from you or smaller but very close.
You also need to pay attention to how the light is scattered and that the direct light is not shining on your face. I have asked my wife to make half a dozen covers for them from a white material. They have a spot in the middle that blocks direct light from the bulb. I use a number of covers on each depending on how much I want to attenuate the lighting.
I also use a very small, cheap 5 watt high CRI, 6400K lightbulb in each. I use same kind of bulbs from same manufacturer for overhead light and for my desk lamp. I have separate desk lamps for 6400K light and 4000K light (which is what I like to use when I work).
The total cost is something on the order of 150 PLN or 40 USD plus a favor to my wife.
Edit: I just read your comment again and realized that you are putting the light really close to your face. I guess that's a way to get away with low power lights.
And it's so much nicer now! It's amazing what light can do to a room.
I think most homes should have an order of magnitude more light.
I am not a model and am not used to have such bright light source so close to my face. I had to attenuate it because then it is just too uncomfortable but also to match light level on my face with that of the background.
Much better alternative - if you have a window, set up your desk so you face towards it. It’s an automatic soft box and you get to look out the window.
But for example, if you are a teacher, or an instructor, or if you have a video meeting with important customers, you may want to put some more effort into presenting yourself. And the best bang for the buck is improving lighting.
Sitting in front of a window is a nice solution for an overcast day, but it doesn't work after sunset (currently around 4PM where I live) or on a sunny day with hard light. Unlike styrofoam boards, it's also hard to control the light because you can't move the window.
I'm not suggesting everyone should do what I said. I was just sharing a possible solution if you want to make good looking video.
I just bought the cheapest, crappiest webcam - a Trust Exis Webcam[1] - and I can assure you that nothing could ever look amazing viewed through that 480p blurry POS no matter what you do.
If you want cheap and crappy, I strongly recommend going for something slightly less cheap and crappy than this one.
[1] https://www.trust.com/en/product/17003-exis-webcam-black-sil...
If you just want soft light, bounce it off anything you have on hand.
When I looked into it a couple of years ago a minimum set of two strobes, mounts and a reflector would have cost more than 300€.
- buy two large sheets of white styrofoam (1m x 0.5m or bigger)
- buy two cheap bright floodlights (the brighter the better)
- get some mounting materials (eg. wood and screws, or cardboard and duct tape)
- Place the two styrofoam plates right and left behind your laptop.
- point the floodlights at the styrofoam, carefully positioning them so they are not in the picture
Enjoy beautiful bright soft light. Optionally add a 3rd floodlight that shines on you from the side/from behind for highlights, and optionally another one to illuminate the background as needed.
Now you'll look amazing even with the cheapest, crappiest webcam.