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Re:How to deal with extreme physical pain by m3kw9 on Friday October 30, 2020 @11:21PM (#24948906)
The main thread is that people that tell you about their pains just want you to hear them, not solve their problems. They want empathy by being a good listener and just acknowledge with empathy
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Re:How to deal with extreme physical pain by DoreenMichele on Friday October 30, 2020 @11:27PM (#24948934)
When I tell people I'm in pain (or similar), I'm usually trying to convey "Hey, sorry I am not at my best. I'm not trying to be rude. I'm not trying to bark at you. If I'm failing to get all the info, it's not for lack of trying or being too lazy or disrespectful to pay attention. I'm just doing the best I can right now and the best I can isn't that great."

And that's usually not how it gets interpreted so I do a lot less of that than I used to do.

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