I imagine the tidal forces would not just feel like you're being stretched, but it would also feel like you're hanging upside-down. And this would be independent of whether your head is pointing towards the black hole or away from it; basically your feet and head are trying to "fall" away from each other.

Great way to go though. An experience you literally cannot describe

I'd presume death to be like that anyhow given the flurry of brain activity directly during and in the nights/dreams leading up to death.

For a supermassive black hole the gravity gradient shouldn’t be all the bad until you’re way past the event horizon. Perhaps it might even be pleasant?

Kurzgesagt channel gives two choices beyond event horizon. Speculation of course. https://youtu.be/e-P5IFTqB98?t=150

If it's a big enough black hole then you'd only see the ageing universe shrink behind you. The spaghettification comes later.

And I’m afraid the time would be weird so that may happen for a very long time.

It should remain the same in your "local" experience.

Ah well that does make me feel better somewhat.