Re:On Old Age
by circlefavshape on Wednesday September 30, 2020 @12:49PM
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I'm 48, and have been a bit mid-life-crisis-y lately. One thing that's been bothering me is that the best times of my life are probably behind me. I don't mean the most productive, or the highest status, or whatever - I mean the most fun. I don't want to delight in the "consciousness of a life well spent and the memory of many deeds worthily performed". I want excitement, and adventure. My friends around me not reminiscing about the times we had, but HAVING THE TIMES right now. These things are getting more and more difficult to come by
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One thing to consider is that the bar for "the best time ever" never gets lower. To defeat this, I concentrate on "good times frequently". I've found that shifting the goal from "best ever" to "reliably enjoyable" works well for me.
Re:On Old Age
by spaetzleesser on Wednesday September 30, 2020 @01:19PM
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I have been in the same situation. But the lack of adventure and excitement can be fixed if you make the effort. Problem is that you have less energy so it’s very tempting to spend the weekend sitting on a sofa instead of doing something.
My mom is a warning for me. She admits that she feels regret about not having done a lot of things when she was younger and now she can’t do them being 90 years old with a demented husband who needs constant care.