How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes

Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by brtkdotse on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @01:36AM (#24563344)

Same here. While it’s tempting to chalk this up under “ball and chain”, I think it’s more a matter of realizing how precious little time you have and raising your bar of acceptance accordingly.

I basically have two answers to requests - it’s either “sorry, gonna pass” or “HELL YES”.

Edit: A trick I learned from Non-violent Communication is to reframe requests internally from “I have to do x” and “I should do x” as “I want to do x”. It much easier to make a decision when you hear the latter out loud.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by kgwgk on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @02:24AM (#24563621)

I understood CreepGin's comment to be about saying "no" to the wife and kids (and your comment to be about saying "no" to others). Maybe there was some intentional ambiguity or maybe I'm too cynic.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by CharmingOpp on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @02:40AM (#24563707)

Reminds me of this concept: https://sive.rs/hellyeah

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