The word "incel" was coined by a woman named Alana, from Canada, back in the 1990s [1]. She originally intended the term as denoting help and support for the romantically unsuccessful of all genders and sexual orientations. It was only later, after she'd stepped away from the movement (her lack of romantic success turned out to be a passing phase in life, as is the experience of very many), that it morphed into a cesspool of toxic misogyny.

But I think that change in definition has been harmful to those covered by the original definition, who are now denied the possibility of a positive identity and supportive community that Alana's original vision offered them. Indeed, any attempts today to found such an identity or community, especially one which is inclusive of heterosexual men, are going to be very quickly tarred by association with the new definition of "incel".

[1] https://www.bbc.com/news/amp/world-us-canada-45284455 but also I remember some of this: I was never actively involved in Alana's website, but I can definitely remember stumbling across it in the 1990s

If you wanted a support group now as an involuntarily celibate person, what would you do?

IMO, just go sort yourself out and find a "support group" focused on whatever axis of self-improvement you're interested in. If you're involuntarily celibate because you're too fat or too scrawny to be physically attractive, get that problem sorted out and get into a community of people focused on bettering themselves in that way. If you're involuntarily celibate because you're unemployed or don't make much money, go develop some marketable skills and get into a community of people focused on developing those skills. If you're involuntarily celibate because you have terrible social skills, maybe try group therapy?

Almost any form of advice which begins with "just" is usually trying to wave away real problems. Go on, try it. Instead of "build a rocketship to go to the moon," do "Just build a rocketship to go to the moon." Sounds a lot easier that way, doesn't it?

But all of the self-improvement stuff doesn't help if you, say, have Goldenhar Syndrome, or a major handicap, or perhaps you have some very unfortunate facial features, or you have to care for an elderly parent, or any number of things.

It isn't always as simple as "people who haven't been trying hard enough."

Probably call it 'singles club'...

But surely being single is different than lifelong singleness and lack of intimacy. In fact many singles continue to date and have sex.

> In fact many singles continue to date and have sex.

Sounds like the sort of people that those who are worried about their lifelong lack of intimacy should be meeting!

They were doing that!