Re:How two British orthodontists became celebrities to incels
by philwelch on Saturday August 22, 2020 @08:40PM
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IMO, just go sort yourself out and find a "support group" focused on whatever axis of self-improvement you're interested in. If you're involuntarily celibate because you're too fat or too scrawny to be physically attractive, get that problem sorted out and get into a community of people focused on bettering themselves in that way. If you're involuntarily celibate because you're unemployed or don't make much money, go develop some marketable skills and get into a community of people focused on developing those skills. If you're involuntarily celibate because you have terrible social skills, maybe try group therapy?
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Re:How two British orthodontists became celebrities to incels
by at_a_remove on Saturday August 22, 2020 @11:00PM
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Almost any form of advice which begins with "just" is usually trying to wave away real problems. Go on, try it. Instead of "build a rocketship to go to the moon," do "Just build a rocketship to go to the moon." Sounds a lot easier that way, doesn't it?
But all of the self-improvement stuff doesn't help if you, say, have Goldenhar Syndrome, or a major handicap, or perhaps you have some very unfortunate facial features, or you have to care for an elderly parent, or any number of things.
It isn't always as simple as "people who haven't been trying hard enough."