The Three Body Problem is great, but it assumes the existence of weapons of ludicrous destructive power.. The only other time I've ever seen a piece of fiction where someone had that amount of destructive power was in a cartoon. (And even then I only saw it once)
If you assume that there's no faster-than-light space travel, it doesn't really make any sense to engage in interstellar conflict IMO. The same tech that would let you travel between the stars would also let you live in comfortable artificial habitats around your own home star, close enough to the rest of your civilization to be able to watch TV and keep up with HackerNews.
That part doesn't seem to hard to me. A robotic spacecraft could install solar sales on a comet in such a way as to crash it into the target planet a few hundred years later. This could go unnoticed until it was too late by the target planet. Alternatively, a beam-powered probe (e.g. 'starwisp' or similar) moving at relativistic speeds could be crashed into the target planet.
Neither of these require cartoon physics.
The Sun dwarfs anything we can do on Earth. Any arbitrary explosion of that sort wouldn't even register as noise next to the Sun. Our radio transmissions are directed and deliberate in a way that is noticeable even among the noise. Like watching scrambled HBO on an old cable box.
The Tsar Bomba did not destroy all life on the planet, did it? A simple solar flare is 5 to 10 magnitudes larger. Yes, small changes, but small changes that don't belong.
We are close enough to the Sun that even if that were detectable at the scale of the cosmos, the distance between the Earth and the Sun is a rounding error at the scales we are talking about.
Appreciate this. We are effectively in the Sun's atmosphere. The entire solar system is. Scale matters.