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Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by Closi on Thursday June 04, 2020 @03:08AM (#23413553)
Counterpoint: Most smalltalk topics actually get people to give an almost pre-rehearsed response.

For example if someone asks “What do you do for a living?” I will give the same answer I have given 1000 times. Ill ask them and they will do the same. There is nothing unique here.

Each to their own though.

Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by serf on Thursday June 04, 2020 @03:13AM (#23413587)
> Counterpoint: Most smalltalk topics actually get people to give an almost pre-rehearsed response.

yeah, but you're supposed to then extrapolate on the other persons' pre-rehearsed response in order to escalate the conversation into something that flows without effort.

"What do you do for a living?"

"Mergers and Acquisitions."

"Oh. I have a friend that does nearly the same thing. They told me this anecdote, does that kind of thing ever happen to you?"

"Oh, as a matter of fact.."

Without small talk there is no sharing of useless trivia by which to use as a jumping off point into real conversation, unless there was some introduction or motivation behind the meeting, anyway.

Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by virusduck on Thursday June 04, 2020 @02:17PM (#23419919)
Murders and executions?
Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by superhuzza on Thursday June 04, 2020 @08:12AM (#23415577)
>I will give the same answer I have given 1000 times.

If I'm just meeting you, it's new information to me, regardless of how many times you've said it! And that opens the door to more interesting conversation. Maybe I do something very related, or are interested something about that job, or whatever. Or maybe it leads nowhere. But that's how smalltalk goes, you dance around until you find a mutually interesting topic.

Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by gk1 on Thursday June 04, 2020 @09:35AM (#23416331)
> ...it's new information to me, regardless of how many times you've said it!

Reminds me of a joke:

— "What's your name?"

— "Damien."

— "Oh, you don't hear that name every day!"

— "Actually, I do."

Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by inakarmacoma on Thursday June 04, 2020 @11:07AM (#23417582)
Where's Bill Hicks when you need him. "little Damien"... Relentless, Revelations?
Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by dexterdog on Thursday June 04, 2020 @10:19PM (#23424367)
Unfortunately we all know where Bill is.
Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by JackFr on Thursday June 04, 2020 @08:18AM (#23415617)
It’s funny, when people ask me my name I always say the same thing. Never gets old.
Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by simplyinfinity on Thursday June 04, 2020 @05:56AM (#23414630)
Without small talk how am i supposed to get to know "the basics" about someone? If i don't know what he does, has he studied, his hobbies and what his interests are, i can't seem to start a deeper conversation. Yes, i can start a generic "what's the meaning of life" conversation, but wouldn't it be better for everyone if i asked specific questions related to that person?
Re:Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes by Closi on Sunday June 07, 2020 @04:35PM (#23450560)
Its a bit of a false dichotomy to say that the alternative to asking “what is your job?” is “what’s the meaning of life?”.

Just talk about anything. Talk about how the seats in the pub you are in aren’t comfy, then just yes and whatever they say and it will form a natural conversation.

You will know the basics about someone because the conversation will inevitably loop back to that naturally during stories.