Anecdote in the opposite direction: Varlam Shalamov was a Russian writer who spent over a decade in various Gulags and then wrote many semi-autobiographical stories about them. In one he observed that he saw many wives join their husbands in the camp after the husband was sentenced, even though the wife could remain free, but that he never saw a husband do the same.
I don't know what to make of that anecdote. Maybe it means nothing. But it has stuck in my mind ever since I read it.
Re:Dating While Dying
by Mediterraneo10 on Friday December 06, 2019 @05:31PM
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The women joining their husbands could serve as a survival stategy for the women. If you were a member of a family of the intelligentsia, and your husband was arrested, it was likely just a matter of time before they arrested you, too. Leaving Moscow or Saint-Petersburg for that kind of voluntary internal exile was thus a way for women to escape the notice of the authorities and keep their own records clean.
Makes sense. But why wouldn’t currently-free husbands do the same?
>I personally know someone who is an wheelchair and was abandoned by their SO ( can't really blame her ) after his condition and has ever since been unable to find someone.
Yeah, so? And I know people who stick to their spouses.
> And I know people who stick to their spouses.
GP already said that? not quite sure what point ur trying to make
> plenty of disabled men in functional relatioships
Yes, and former house speaker Newt Gingrich famously left his dying wife while branding the GOP as the party of family values, for which everyone should in fact blame him. Anecdotes are useless, do you have any data that suggests that women are more likely than men to leave a partner due to illness?
Re:Dating While Dying
by kareninoverseas on Friday December 06, 2019 @08:50AM
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These are all good points but they feel very insensitive in tone given that OP has shared something personal; I'm not sure if you realise what you're doing
When something personal is shared, it becomes something to discuss. Especially when its a larger observation concerning what others, not the person, do.
Men are more likely to leave their wives due to illness than women are - https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/12/men-more-likely-to...
That would be such an unacceptable response in any other context ( eg: there are plenty of women who are CEOs, there are plenty of <minority> millionaires. Please lose the victim angle). But somehow such cruelty is acceptable towards "incel" men.
I personally know someone who is an wheelchair and was abandoned by their SO ( can't really blame her ) after his condition and has ever since been unable to find someone.