Re:Putting Victimhood Behind You
by throwanem on Wednesday September 25, 2019 @03:31PM
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Sure. I've been on the wrong end of people like that, and it's not a good place to be. But that's a separate question, I think - that of whether or not to accept help, vs. whether or not to offer it.
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Re:Putting Victimhood Behind You
by DoreenMichele on Wednesday September 25, 2019 @08:10PM
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I'm having a dreadful day and I think we are probably talking past each other. I will just note that I never suggested that it's best to never help. I used a lot of provisional language, like can and may.
Suffice it to say this is a thorny problem with many potential pitfalls from both sides and I blog in hopes of providing a path forward that involves fewer pitfalls because reading my blog doesn't create a one-on-one personal relationship, which is where either giving help or receiving it can turn into trouble you didn't anticipate.
I only wish I was better at monetizing my writing. That's a hard row to hoe these days and it means I'm still writing for a pittance, which still leaves me wondering at times if I'm still a fool and a chump, benefiting other people and getting far too little in return.