Fertility treatments can be paid by health insurance and there is no 'parent vetting' process to delay things. Often fertility issues are one sided, so at least the children will be half of the couple.
That's your definition. It's not everyone's.
> If the offspring feels some sort of anguish over this, that's a self-inflicted harm.
So you're saying the feeling of anguish is self-inflicted? A rape victim who feels anguish is self-inflicting harm?
Clearly not.
Maybe not everyone's, but it's a pretty well-accepted definition that a majority of people would likely agree with. That's often the best we can do.
> So you're saying the feeling of anguish is self-inflicted?
Not in general, but in this particular case, yes, it would be.
> A rape victim who feels anguish is self-inflicting harm?
Ah, the good old false equivalency. Please don't present arguments in bad faith.
No, it doesn't. The child has a right to "know his or her parents". It does not specifically state "biological" parents. Parents are the people who raise you and are legally responsible for you.
> I believe that taking an action that causes no harm to oneself but causes harm upon another person is unethical.
I agree with that statement in general, but don't see how this applies. If someone donates sperm anonymously, that anonymity does not cause harm to any child conceived with that sperm. That child may later really want to know where their genes come from, but that's not harm. If the offspring feels some sort of anguish over this, that's a self-inflicted harm.
Having said all that, I would really prefer that couples with severe fertility issues would instead adopt. Arguably the planet is already overpopulated, and there are plenty of unwanted kids who need parents. But I'm also one of those people who doesn't understand how people feel the need that they must reproduce, so clearly I'm missing something that the mainstream believes.