> That's your definition. It's not everyone's.
Maybe not everyone's, but it's a pretty well-accepted definition that a majority of people would likely agree with. That's often the best we can do.
> So you're saying the feeling of anguish is self-inflicted?
Not in general, but in this particular case, yes, it would be.
> A rape victim who feels anguish is self-inflicting harm?
Ah, the good old false equivalency. Please don't present arguments in bad faith.
That's your definition. It's not everyone's.
> If the offspring feels some sort of anguish over this, that's a self-inflicted harm.
So you're saying the feeling of anguish is self-inflicted? A rape victim who feels anguish is self-inflicting harm?
Clearly not.