> How do women think about things? I mean- according to your mom. You report her saying and seem to agree with it. Do you know what she means?

I don't believe I ever argued that I understood women?

I Merely stated that on average women differ from men and that it's no less valuable- I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that I believe that I know how women think.

It's genuinely impossible to know how all women think just like it's impossible to know how all _people_ think.

>> I don't believe I ever argued that I understood.

But you report her words here and you seem to agree with her. If you don't understand what she means, how can you agree with her? And why report her words if you don't know what she means?

Oh I understand your comment now, I was completely thrown off by the mention of "women" in general.

I believe I clearly understood my mothers intent here, I am comfortable defending the statement, where am I ambiguous in my understanding?

I can call her if you want me to confirm but in my opinion her words were incredibly concise and clear.

But you say you don't understand what she means by "how women think about things". How does that line up with the fact you "clearly understood your mother's intent" and that "her words were incredibly concise and clear"?

I’m lost again. Please point to where she says that.

This was in your original comment:

Her exact words were “men and women are equal but different, in many ways they’re complimentary” she then explained that some men look down on women because they didn’t value how women think about things.

Those are observations from her life, I've experienced those too.

I'm dangerously close to stating common stereotypes so please take the following with good faith;

I knew a female engineer who was very good at her job (she was in networking), after having a child she discussed with her husband (also a network engineer at another company, roughly the same pay) about reducing her working hours.

He was fine with it, but he was open to also taking time off, she felt it was needed because she was the mother, purely her choice. Her manager took it graciously and put her down to 80% time.

However, one engineer resented that she was away 2-half-days a week, he ascribed values that he held to her and couldn't understand why she would want to be home with her kid instead of making more of her career.

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a male example: I have a close personal friend who is what you would call a manly-man.

His girlfriend obviously loves him, but his girlfriends best friend is not a fan of how he's "aloof", often she considers that he is secretly plotting something or is going to cheat on her. He lacks the empathy to be "seriously deep". He might even be a psychopath; by the way she tells it anyway.

The truth is that he's just a bigger guy and he is quiet, it's different when it's just me and him but with a large group he recedes into being very quiet.

She never made much of an effort to connect with him; but she judges him based on values she has, values about being open and warm and caring and smiley.

My mother has more "anecdotes" but the way things are is that it's not statistically backed. But it's a good rule of thumb to ensure that I at least try to understand someone else's values before I judge their actions (or, non-actions).

Can I ask- why are you relaying these anecdotes? What is the point you are trying to make? Can you state it without recourse to examples?

So I can’t give examples, and the words aren’t clear?

I don’t think there is anything I can say to convey the meaning I meant then. I’m sorry that I am not understandable.

I'm not trying to tell you what to write in your comments. What I mean is that your examples don't help me understand "how women think about things". If you could state what you mean by "how women think about things" in a few sentences then that might be more helpful. As it is now, I have no idea what your examples, are examples of.