How Dad's Stresses Get Passed Along to Offspring

Re:How Dad's Stresses Get Passed Along to Offspring by timeseries2018 on Thursday November 08, 2018 @04:43PM (#18410316)

God, no. How do you decide what stack to work on? Should I use Python 2 for maximum compatibility, or Python 3 since it's the future? Should I spend my time on KDE or Gnome. Do I use Angular 2 or Angular 3? TypeScript or JavaScript? vi or emacs? Which flavor of Linux should I learn? Oh no, I chose wrong, everyone is getting $500k at a FAANG! I picked the wrong stack! I chose wrong! I lost years! I'm not getting any younger! I missed the opportunity!

Yeah, no.

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Re:How Dad's Stresses Get Passed Along to Offspring by amrx431 on Friday November 09, 2018 @05:18AM (#18413508)

Jesus. This comment is giving me anxiety. I had similar poverty issues growing up in India. My mother died for the lack of money to pay for a 500$ surgery and we didn't have $$ for funeral. I get anxiety like anything else even with the slightest disrupt in routine. I get breadth shortness and pain in stomach. My current strategy to deal with this is the Bruce Banner strategy to consider it as normal.

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Re:How Dad's Stresses Get Passed Along to Offspring by scns on Friday November 09, 2018 @06:44AM (#18413784)

I recommend you to pick up meditation, John Yates - Mind Illuminated is a great book for this. Alternatively a mindfullnes based stress reduction course.

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Re:How Dad's Stresses Get Passed Along to Offspring by MR4D on Monday November 12, 2018 @10:19AM (#18433069)

I upvoted your comment for its poignancy.

If people reading this don't understand your comment, then please reread it and post a question.

Honestly, I faced this so much when I was in tech that the stress level became ridiculous.

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