Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics. Need Advice

Re:Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics.... by sergiotapia on Thursday November 01, 2018 @11:29AM (#18354850)

>that I generally like pleasing people

Wrong move buddy - this is 100% the cause of all the issues you're facing. People smell that, they kind of dislike you. BAD people smell that, they exploit your weakness to the max. There is no upside.

Work on fixing this immediately.

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Re:Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics.... by yesenadam on Friday November 02, 2018 @10:56AM (#18363456)

Um. Not sociopathic enough, that's your diagnosis? No room for decent human beings in business? It's bad to like pleasing people?! ...

Hopefully this is one of those times I find a comment horrifying/depressing but they didn't really mean what I thought they meant.

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Re:Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics.... by frustratedmngr on Thursday November 01, 2018 @05:29PM (#18358656)

The problem is... how do I actually fix this? I have considered therapy before, however, I find it particularly hard to pick a given therapist/approach. Do you have any recommendation?

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Re:Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics.... by brokenmachine on Thursday November 01, 2018 @11:01PM (#18360378)

Just accept that you don't need to be friends with everybody. Some people you just will not get along with. Whether it's you or them that's responsible is not really important.

I always try to be nice at the start, but if it goes south I just try to avoid that person. It has worked for me but YMMV.

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Re:Ask HN: I have constantly fallen prey to office politics.... by brokenmachine on Sunday November 04, 2018 @05:56PM (#18378508)

Also something I read recently and agree with is this:

You do NOT have to be nice to people who are mean to you.

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