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Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by throwaway_nnn on Monday September 03, 2018 @04:19AM (#17901228)
Go ahead and ask something about it, the throwaway account is ready. Not in SV however. It's been interesting - e.g. I met the smartest (but lazy) person I know and I know for sure that one tech billionaire that you've likely heard of was also doing it.
Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by saiya-jin on Monday September 03, 2018 @04:51AM (#17901350)
Well, I didn't think about it before, so random thoughts - why this way at all? It seems a rather poor allocation of the money (unless you are super-rich relative to where you live). From what I heard, it ain't a cheap 'hobby', ie ladies expect expensive stuff for the 'services'.

Is the youth the biggest draw? From my experience highest quality sex happens with more experienced ladies, it takes them time to come to terms with their body, their visual flaws (all of us has them) etc. and just enjoy themselves.

What about trust? With prostitute, you know you can't trust her being healthy, with these ladies - is the approach the same or you hope she doesn't have 10 similar 'customers' like you?

Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by throwaway_nnn on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:18AM (#17901447)
I have enough money that ~$3-7k/month doesn't make a large difference. I've never bought anything additional for them unless you count paying for dinner and drinks and Ubers.

Youth is definitely a top draw. You might have seen this study: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-... - men of all ages send most messages to 18-19 year-olds. But there are other factors: not my experience but some men have fetishes they want to fulfill or they want to cheat. I'm actually doing well enough on Tinder to meet a new, above average girl every day in a big city. But I'm not in the social circles that would allow me to meet top current models or ballet dancers... But this makes it possible.

It's just my impression that could be wrong but I'm 90%+ sure that none of the girls I was seeing had other "clients." I'm picky and I avoid girls who seem like "party girls" and have no job or don't go to school. Also, only one of them had a previous arrangement and all of them wanted to have chemistry first. They describe most of the other men they met as weird and unattractive.

So I agree with you that you can't trust 80%+ of them if you care about not being just another client.

Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by person_of_color on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:30AM (#17901488)
What's your age range?
Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by throwaway_nnn on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:38AM (#17901513)
18-24. It would be quite hard for me to meet girls this age on Tinder but it's not hard for me to meet 25+ year-olds on it.

@person_of_color Edit because I hit the posting limits: I've done it with breaks for real relationships in mid-to-late 30s.

Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by person_of_color on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:48AM (#17901547)
I mean your age range - unless you are 18-24?
Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by true_religion on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:00AM (#17901381)
School tuition is running at 31,000 a year, plus added expenses. Compared to that, how pricey can sex work really be?
Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by ddorian43 on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:10AM (#17901423)
I think it's an easy way for wealthy men to date(sex)-up.
Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by commodore__64 on Monday September 03, 2018 @09:37AM (#17902494)
Where do you meet the girls?

Do the girls ever fall in love with you? Or you with them?

How many girls do you see at a time? How long does the arrangement usually last?

How much of the remuneration is in cash vs luxury items like jewellery, handbags, phones etc?

Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by person_of_color on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:06AM (#17901401)
What's your total compensation?

How much do you spend monthly on your sugar partner?

Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by throwaway_nnn on Monday September 03, 2018 @05:19AM (#17901452)
$3k-7k per month. There was one exception at $10k/month but that involved threesomes.
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Re:In Kenya, “sugar” relationships have become both more com... by dang on Monday September 03, 2018 @04:14PM (#17904634)
Your comments in this thread were borderline to start with but this is gross and nasty. Please don't do this on HN again.