My dad used to always tell me if you cant be the best dont even bother. Even though it was his primary sport, since we are asian, he wouldnt teach me to play basketball because I couldnt be the best. I 100% disagree with his philosophy.
In life Ive never been the best at anything, it takes too much work. However I have been pretty good at a lot of things and enjoy the learning and the doing. I have had a lot of hobbies and I guess my passion is learning new hobbies.
When your happiness depends on other's judgement of you, you will never be able to consistently be happy.
I have run my own company for 18 years, this year we will just hit 8 million in revenue. Yet, many of my friends have built and sold companies for 10+ million in just a handful of years. Im clearly not the best, but who cares? I have freedom to do other things I love and enjoy my work even though I would rather be building computer games.
At my company we try to help discover what the company can do to help people live the life they love. It is surprisingly harder than you might think for people to listen to their own voice because it is drowned out by all the voices around them telling them what they should love and what they should do.
But I am genuinely curious to know how lesser known, and the more average kind of person deals with this. Because I feel like I might end up being in the same situation judging from my current progress.
On HN, I see lots of amazing individuals with great education, work experiences using "expensive" vocabulary.
I am not one of them. I was below average in school but "bootstrapped" my professional life using my personality and my imagination. I ended up creating something beyond my wildest dream.
If Einstein hadn't been Einstein he may have failed in physics work and stayed a bored patent clerk forever. I bet this happened and is still happening to a lot of people.
I have passion for software development. I am good at it but somehow I never managed to do it in an environment that doesn't kill my passion for it. I have done my own thing but failed at the business side like selling.
I really wish I had passion for something I am good at and that also allows me to do it for a living instead of feeling like I am wasting my life sitting in a cubicle. People who have managed to make their passion into a career should be envied.