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Re:Ask HN: Is there a new habit you cultivated recently that... by tcfunk on Tuesday June 12, 2018 @10:02AM (#17293300)
I also started doing this more -- including with my wife.

It has definitely helped my mood and mental health overall to talk about the things that are on my mind, even if the conversations don't always end up going in my favor per se.

This probably seems super obvious to a lot of people, but it does not come naturally to me, and I suspect an equally large number of people have trouble with it too.

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Re:Ask HN: Is there a new habit you cultivated recently that... by aantix on Tuesday June 12, 2018 @10:49AM (#17293738)
If you're just learning to be open, you'd probably enjoy the book, Conscious Loving. There's a whole section dedicated to telling the "microscopic truth" in your relationships. https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Committment-Gay-H...

Painful to do in the beginning, but as people get use to your new truth telling ways, they learn to appreciate the honesty.

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Re:Ask HN: Is there a new habit you cultivated recently that... by tcfunk on Tuesday June 12, 2018 @12:12PM (#17294706)
I'll check it out, thanks for the suggestion.
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